Mental Health Mondays: It's nice to be nice.

It's nice to be nice simply because it makes you feel good. A few years ago I let go of a lot of anger and I started to work on myself, trying to become a better person. I found it did absolute wonders for my mind, my body and quite obviously my soul! To begin with my anxiety and depression disappeared almost completely for over a year, which in turn my body then stopped holding on to a lot of weight I found hard to lose previously because, when we become stressed or anxious our body produces more of the stress hormone cortisol which in short stimulates body fat and makes it a lot harder to lose weight. All of this because I was holding on to too much anger, which reflected on the people around me. I gave out about too many people, talked down about people if I was jealous, had a guard up, never said yes to anything. I was a negative little mess basically!
 
These days there are a few quotes I like to live my life by to make sure I leave an impression of the best version of myself that I can leave.

"Live in such a way that if someone spoke badly of you, no one would believe it"

"Be the kind of person you would like to be friends with" 

There are days that we will all have where we aren't in a good mood and everything is making us grouchy for no good reason! There are no excuses good enough to treat anyone in a horrible manner or to be just plain rude to someone. They could be having their own bad day, maybe  even a worse day than you, and here you come storming through throwing your bad energy out on everyone. Think about how it feels when someone is mean or rude to you in work, or school or college for no reason, it feels awful. So why make others feel like that? Even to a stranger who I may never see again I'd rather have them think nice of me rather than "What did I do to deserve that look? What a rude, nasty person" 

I always try to see the good in people (even though some people test that extensively...), I try my hardest never to say a bad word about someone out of spite or viciousness (no one wants a negative Nancy around, after all "What Susie says of Sally says more about Susie than it does about Sally"), I try to have compassion for people if they're a bit moody, if someone says bad of me out of spite or viciousness I tend to feel bad for them rather than angry. 

 

So just remember, be nice because it's good for you. I promise it will bring good energy and good luck your way! Contrary to what's said, good things happen to nice people.

XO