1. Life isn't worth surrounding yourself with people who don't deserve you. This is one of the biggest things I've learned in my 23 years. Life really is not worth the stress of having people in it who don't make you happy, comfortable and who you can truly rely on. Even if I have a friend who's being negative or there's a disagreement about something I find it's just best to stop lingering on it, let it go, and not worry about it unless it's really important!
2. Make up is not that important. I know that is a pretty 'duh' statement. Make up is obviously not the be all and end all of life but there was a long time I would always wear makeup and rely on it to feel good about myself, and no there's nothing wrong with that if that's what you're happy with. I just realised I don't need it to feel good. If I'm happy with how I look, weather I'm wearing make up or not, then it's all good! Confidence is the best thing you can wear.
3. Taking time to yourself is so important, but so is time with friends. It's such a nice thing to be alone. We all need time to disconnect from the world and from other people for a short while. Time on your own helps you to be more independent, you have time to think and to get stuff done. On the other hand, it's also so important to be with friends and be able to enjoy the company of others. No matter what you're doing, the company of friends is so great! The memories and laughs you will share will be so irreplaceable and it can bring you out of a bad mood you mightn't have thought you could shake!
4. You need to love yourself before anyone else can love you.
This sounds a little bit cliché but it's true. If you want someone to truly love you for every bit of person that you are, you have to love yourself. If you can't accept both your greatness and your flaws then it's going to affect your relationship in the long run. You need to know what your insecurities are and how to deal with them in a way that doesn't depend on another human, to learn your faults so that others can't use them against you and to know how wonderful you are so you know that if someone hurts you that you know you're amazing and you still have so much to offer to someone else who will appreciate you.
5. Life goes pretty quickly, so make the most of it. It's pretty terrifying to realise how fast life is going, and if there's one thing I noticed, it's that for a lot of years, specifically from 18 to 21 years old, I didn't do much to remember. I went to college and I had a holiday and that was pretty much it! I decided enough was enough and I started saying yes to more things, taking more photographs and mainly not finding excuses to get out of things. I did them and I really enjoyed it because, yes it's great to have time alone but only when I'm not missing opportunities to have a life! Spend time with the people you care about, even if it's just an hour talking. Do things that make you laugh, do things you're scared of! When you look back these are the things you remember, these are the things you smile stupidly to yourself about when you're alone, it's what makes life worth it!
These little notes may not be groundbreaking, or spectacular but they're pretty big "a-ha!" moments for me, in my life. I hope you enjoyed reading them and (maybe) even taken something away from it.
XO
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